The other night before bed I posted the following on my Facebook page: Do you equate your business with worthiness? Do you find the need to tell people how busy you are? Do you feel "less than" if you aren't busy? Post honestly. Curious about this phenomenon.
I woke up and read the myriad responses.
I get caught up doing it at times: The I'm so busy track, and how on some level it feels like it makes me more relevant. The responses were honest and frank. Many people said that they did equate being busy with self-worth, but many didn't. Some said they had learned a lesson recently, having just ended up in the hospital or gotten fired and finding themselves suddenly very un-busy.
I read all of the comments and something struck me. Something I've been thinking about a lot lately. We think a lot about the they. Them. Others. We think a lot about what they/them/others will think of us.
Most of the time it isn't what they think. It's what we think they're going to think.
We need to stop thinking about what we think others may think and just do/write/be/go/not go. Whatever it is, don't let what you think you know about what others think stop you. That's what I woke up thinking about this gorgeous morning.
Besides, someone once said to me, "It's worse than you think. They're not thinking about you at all."
So there's that.
Someone's always going to have something to say.
Do, or don't do it anyway. Know what you know. And what you don't know, what we all don't know, is as big as the sky. It's a world of We-Just-Don't-Know out there. What others will think is the most overused, tired, put it to bed already, who gives a flying rat's ass, enough already reason for making choices, whether they are conscious ones or not.
So what I'm saying as I type this from my bed on a lazy, un-busy morning, is: liberate yourself. Let us all do that.
And before I have my first of many cups of coffee, remember the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, "You wouldn't worry so much about what others thought of you when you realize how seldom they actually do."
So there's that.
Now go be you. Go do your thing. I'll be here being me. Doing my thing.